32: Lessons from my pup about navigating grief
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Jo: Hello, beautiful soul. And welcome back to the podcast. This week's episode is going to be a little bit heavier and I don't apologize for that because it needs to be said. So with that being said, Last night, we [00:01:00] lost our Rottweiler puppy. She was with the trainer. At pup school and no, that's not the name of the the place where she was, but she was getting higher education. She was being trained and unexpectedly and quite suddenly she was gone. Our beautiful puppy. It was gone. But the reason that I'm telling you this is not because this episode is going to be about loss of a dog. This episode is about grief and the grieving process and the lesson that my dog gave to me today while I was in the Starbucks drive through. I was trying to determine what kriya I was going to do with my girls in REIGN today. Because we have a group call. And the kriya that came to me was the kriya for overcoming grief. And as I'm having this little conversation with my intuition, because that's what I do. [00:02:00] I was like, um, I'm the only one grieving here. So why am I going to do uh, kriya for overcoming grief, if they're not grieving and here's the thing. Right. My intuition was like, no, they need it too. Because as we are going through this container of transformation, as we are healing deep patterns in our lives, It's not uncommon for sadness and grief to show up as these parts of ourselves are falling away. As these things in our lives are falling away. As people. In our lives start to fall away. Because we are changing because we are growing because we are evolving into a bigger version of ourselves. Because we are rising into a higher frequency and the lower frequency things start to fall away to make room for what we're calling in. And with that falling away it's common to have that sadness. It's common to have this [00:03:00] grief, because all of these things are something that we have learned to love, learn to embrace, even if we don't actually love them. Right. They're still a part of us that is now falling away. So navigating that grief, navigating that sadness is something that as Americans, we are not well-equipped to do. Working in the hospital in the ICU, I have seen. More death than I care to ever admit. I have held the hands of family members. I've held the hands of patients as the patients have passed away, I've held and hugged people as they are told or as they've witnessed. Their loved ones to go across to the other side. And as a society we are not good at handling grief at all. Some of the common things that I see are people pushing it down and bottling it up. We try to numb the pain through working a whole lot or through [00:04:00] drinking or drugs or scrolling on social media or playing games or watching bingeing, Netflix, right? We do whatever we can so that we don't have to feel the feelings. And the lesson that Luna brought me today was. That not only do we need to feel the feelings. But we need to be supported and feeling the feelings. And I didn't address that in REIGN up until this point. So we're putting that in there. Because we need to have a safe space so that we can grieve the loss of pieces of ourselves as they are being healed and transmuted. It's not the fun stuff. Like grief, isn't something fun. And that's probably why we don't deal with it very well as a society because it's not fun. Right. But ancient cultures used to see our grief as sacred. We were allowed to grieve. We were allowed to yell and scream and release, and we're not allowed to do that [00:05:00] anymore. If you do that in the hospital, a lot of times people look at you really funny. And sometimes security is called, right? And it's not. The American culture that does that in the hospitals. Right. It's other cultures and. I'm sorry, but that should probably be more normalized. You know what? No, I'm not. Sorry. That should be more normalized, feeling your grief. Allowing your grief to be expressed should be normalized and it should be a sacred process. But we're kind of expected to just push it down and leave our emotions at the door. To pretend like everything's okay to get through the day so that we can make the paycheck and continue on. But that is not how we really truly are designed to work. I know that there are a lot of things that I can probably do to help my ladies and REIGN to help support them through grief, but we're going to start with this kriya. And eventually I'll add in some [00:06:00] modules that address grief as I become more familiar with navigating grief because I'm still not the best at it. I will be completely and totally honest. I grew up in America where grief isn't expressed. Where we are told to be strong and leave our feelings at the door. So. As I am navigating this as I am understanding and learning more about the process. As I become more aware and as I learn, which tools help me best. To navigate grief that will also be going into REIGN. As probably a whole module in and of itself. Because it needs to be addressed. And I'm really, really grateful for Luna for helping me learn that. And I'm just going to go ahead and say, if she decides not to join my spirit team, I'm gonna be so salty. But I think she already has, if she's delivering me these lessons and messages already, [00:07:00] so I think that is it for this episode. I know it's probably not the most exciting episode, but it needs to be said, and we need to have more support around it. So that's what I'm going to do. All right. I will see you next week. Bye.
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